Optimism is a thinking style that can be learned, which means that pessimism can be unlearned! It can take a little while, so don't feel discouraged. Becoming more aware of the two styles can gradually help you start noticing more ways to be optimistic. Just keep telling yourself, "I can be more optimistic and I'm going to keep practicing!"
First, sit down and come up with a list of general helpful statements that you can say in any situation. Try writing some of them down on little coping cards, or email or text them to yourself so you can look at these statements when you need to. Repeat these statements to yourself every day for two weeks. It may feel unnatural or fake at first, but keep at it andthese thoughts will slowly feel more familiar and true (because they are true!). If you practice saying these things to yourself, then over time these more helpful thoughts will start to pop into your head on their own.
Don't dwell on mistakes. Even if you said something you regret, for example, it's unlikely that the other person will remember it after a short time. Stay positive; refrain from labeling yourself a failure, or from telling yourself that you'll never be able to make friends. The very shyest people do, and so will you.
Regardless of why you're being asked to spill the beans about who you are, you're in the spotlight and need to be prepared to answer "Tell me about yourself" the "right" way to stand out among your competition. This is especially true when you consider that though the average interview length is 40 minutes, reports have shown that the interviewer knows if they will hire a candidate within the first 90 seconds. With that said, consider the following tips to prepare for being asked to "tell me about yourself" during a job interview.
We all feel insecure about different things (and a lot of the same things, too, actually), but whatever it is you're feeling insecure about isn't really the point. The point is this: All levels of insecurity are unpleasant, and while feeling insecure is totally normal, it can steal your joy and seriously hinder your progress if you let it. So don't think you have to eradicate all insecurity from your life (because, if we're being realistic, that's kind of unrealistic), but do realize that it's important to know what to tell yourself when you're feeling insecure.
Whether you're feeling insecure about something right now or you feel like you could take on literally anything, it's a good idea to know what to tell yourself when you're feeling down. Here are 11 things to tell yourself when you're feeling insecure.
I regularly berate myself for feeling insecure, and I think part of this is because I frequently think to myself, "No one can possibly be feeling as insecure as I'm feeling right now." But that just can't be true. I don't care how confident and self-assured someone is; no one is immune to insecurity. If you ever find yourself thinking that you're a giant weirdo for feeling so insecure sometimes, just remind yourself that you're not the only one who feels this way. It won't fix your insecurity, but it will make you feel less alone, and that's always helpful.
I think one of the biggest reasons people (like myself) feel so horribly about their insecurities is that we falsely believe that insecurity is synonymous with weakness. But the thing is that it takes a lot of strength to be insecure and then do things anyway. (Case in point: Neville Longbottom.) So when you're feeling insecure, don't add to that misery by telling yourself you're weak, because you're really not.
I can't speak for everyone, but for me, a lot of insecurity exists where I have yet to prove myself to myself. I try to use my insecurity as a motivator instead of a crutch, and you can, too. It's hard and it's scary, but if you push yourself to do/say/think the things that you're afraid of (but really want), then you'll slowly but surely cross items off that mental list of things that make you feel insecure.
Part of the art of small talk is not just coming up with things to say yourself, but offering up material that makes it easy for people to know what to say/ask in response. So just think about throwing out a few things that will make other folks want to get to know more about you, while making it as easy as possible for them to do so.
This GOD works through bodies; as too toxic peoples/devils. They just want what they want. I just want to be me; and be protected from anything and anyone who wishes to do me harm; in the seen and in the UNseen dangers. Whilest I believe there are truly good peoples out here; I have learned that there are evil hearted and or good people doing wrong things for right reasons (no intentions to hurt); but someone gets hurt anyways; I want to be protected from that hurt.
The stories I am referring to are those things you tell yourself in your head every day. You may or may not be aware of them, and some may not even be true, but they are reflecting some of your core beliefs about yourself and the world around you.
During the day, every time you see one, take a moment to notice what's going on in your head at that time. What patterns do you see? What are some of the things you're thinking about most? Are you telling yourself a story that's fictional or true?
From what I can tell, we all doubt ourselves from time to time. The problem, of course, is that telling yourself no prevents you from getting started at all. When you decide not to act, you deny yourself opportunities.
We might compare ourselves to others or set unrealistic expectations for ourselves based on other people's standards. This is particularly the case when it comes to perfectionism. Whenever we want to do something, it has to be done just right--even if this means spending hours on end agonizing over what simple word should go in a sentence, or which outfit looks the best. Here are some ways you can stop being so hard on yourself.
If you find that you're being too hard on yourself, it's time to stop. Find someone you trust that you can talk to about your struggles. This could be a friend, family member, co-worker, or even a therapist. Talking to someone about the things that are troubling you will allow you to gain perspective on the situation.
When we're our own harshest critics, we often put too much pressure on ourselves to succeed or do everything perfectly. The problem with this is that we end up avoiding tasks we might otherwise enjoy because we're afraid of doing them wrong. Instead, when you're feeling like you're not good enough, give yourself permission to make mistakes and do things imperfectly. You'll find that taking risks won't be as scary when you give yourself permission to do them wrong sometimes.
Whatever the reason, you have the right to represent yourself, to be your own lawyer in all cases in California. But just because you can represent yourself does not mean you should. It is very important that you learn about what is at stake in your case, and what you will be expected to do and know in order to handle it on your own.
How. The way you choose to tell someone is about what will make you most comfortable. It can be in-person, over the phone, or in the form of a letter. There are positive and negative aspects to each of these ways of telling someone, but it all comes down to what is right for you. For instance, if you are worried about being interrupted or being asked too many questions, writing a letter could be helpful.
Regular positive self-talk can help you to feel more confident in the face of achieving your goals, as you instill yourself with the belief that the things you want are achievable, and when problems do arise, you find workarounds.
I know it feels like you should wait to work on your resume until you have a block of free time. Guess what? No one has a big block of time in the military. Unless you got fired. Or stashed. Even then, you are probably still telling yourself you need a big block of time for transition when it is simply not true.
Our brains are always going to be busy protecting us from doing things that represent too much risk, but transition is not too risky. Once you get started, each task leads to something else until you wake up one morning at the next right job. The sooner you let yourself get started, the sooner that day will arrive. 2b1af7f3a8